Monday, May 7, 2012

The Pregnant Bridesmaid

On April 28, one of my best friends in the whole wide world got married.  I fully intended to post this entry last week.  However, I think it took an entire week to recover from all the excitement.  Apparently partying all weekend at 30 weeks pregnant = feeling exhausted like first trimester for the rest of the next week!  I’ve noticed that a lot lately.  I can muster up the energy for fun events, but then I am totally wiped out for the next couple days.

Anyway, on to the wedding:  My friend, J-fer (short for Jennifer bc we knew too many of them growing up), got married!   I like to joke that the wedding was all my fault bc I bought her a account for her 30th birthday, and that’s how she met her now husband.  J-fer and I have been friends since we were 6.  We were in Girl Scouts together and went to elementary school, jr. high and high school together.  J-fer even came to visit me when I did my junior year abroad in England.  She was one of my bridesmaids, so it was only fitting that I be one of hers.

When J-fer got engaged last year, I knew that Aaron and I were planning on starting our family and those plans would overlap with her wedding plans.  We actually purposely timed our family expansion plans so that I would not be about to pop, nor be dealing with a newborn at the time of her wedding.  However, there were still some awkward planning moments.  The place we bought our bridesmaid dresses, Bella Bridesmaids, needed us to order our dresses back in September because each dress is custom made.  Which means that I had to order my dress before I got pregnant, but knowing that I probably would be pregnant at the time of the wedding.  I had to guess what size I would be and order my dress with an empire waist style.  When the dress arrived in January, I tried it on and it was HUGE!  I could grab a full handful of material at the back!  I knew for sure that I would need it altered, but decided to wait until a month before the wedding so that I would have a better idea of how big I would be for the actual day.  I am so glad I waited to get it altered!  When I tried the dress on again in March, it was only slightly too big.  I ended up just hemming it!

For J-fer’s wedding day, I showed up at her hotel room at 7am to get ready with all the girls.  I brought some bagels and cream cheese for all the bridesmaids.  When I arrived, the room was a flurry of activity, with the hairdresser working on one of the bridesmaids.  J-fer’s beautiful wedding dress was hanging up by the window overlooking San Diego’s marina.  It’s amazing how quickly time passes when you are getting ready for such a big event!  Before I knew it, we were all dressed and ready and packing up to head to the church.

The wedding ceremony was at the beautiful Immaculata Parish church on the USD campus.  The USD campus is GORGEOUS!  I kind of feel like USD is what Loyola Marymount wants to be (no offense to LMU). It’s just so amazing.  I can see why J-fer had her heart set on getting married there.  It also helps that her husband, Michael, went to USD, so there’s the alumni connection.  The ceremony was beautiful and I tried really hard not to cry, but I just couldn’t help myself.  The entire time J-fer’s dad was walking her down the aisle, I kept saying to myself, “I’m not going to cry, I’m not going to cry.”  And then she arrived at the front of the church and her dad handed her off to Michael, and I felt a tear drop down the right side of my face.  Then they faced the priest, and I felt another tear drop down the left side of my face.

After the ceremony and the obligatory bridal party pictures, Aaron and I gave a couple of the other bridesmaids a ride to the reception while J-fer and Michael got to ride in and awesome 1929 Durant!  I had a great time at the reception, even though the head table was placed directly underneath the AC vents.  (I ALWAYS get stuck sitting underneath AC vents, I don’t know why!)  I had completely forgotten that, back when J-fer got engaged, I asked J-fer if I could give a speech at the wedding.  So I was a little nervous when J-fer came up to me and said, “You’re still good to give a speech, right?  I realize I never followed up with you on that, but you’re on the DJs list.”  But fortunately I had bullet points of everything I wanted to say in my head, and I’m relatively used to public speaking, so I think I pulled it off ok.

After the wedding, my family retreated back to Mira Mesa, changed into comfy clothes and then went out to Callahan’s (our favorite local Irish pub).  All in all, it was a great day!  My pregnant feet lasted most of the day in heels (though I did bring some cute flip flops to change into during the reception).  Aaron and I were able to dance the afternoon away.  We got to visit with friends and shower our love one of the best couples I know.

Good friends :)

Aaron and I showing off Baby Bump Sherry

My family at the reception.

In case you are interested, here are some links to the professional shots. 


  1. yay! You and the bump were amazing bridesmaids :) I can't wait to show her the pictures when she get's older that she was in Aunt J-fer's wedding :) xoxo

  2. I am jealous of your excellent planning ahead abilities. A combo of me not really thinking about it plus one of my best friend's getting engaged and picking a date before I told her I was pregnant = her wedding 2 weeks before my due California.

    You look great! Not much longer to go....:)